"Then I'll learn how to swim." Or drown while trying. She's already in this far, and she refuses to back out now. If she's in over her head, then... all she has to do is find her bearings and swim to the surface.
"... I didn't stop you because of him." That's a good place to start, right? That seems to be the crux of the matter for him. "He could have been anyone. I stopped you because I don't want you to hurt others. I may not know you well, but I at least know you're better than that. Your self control is important to you. You don't lash out without a reason."
It crosses her mind that this is hard. She has to be so careful about what she says. Not because it's not the truth, but because she gets the notion that if she tries to rely on just feelings, she won't get through to him. She has to break it down further for him--to simple facts that he can't deny.
"So, can you please talk to me? I'm doing this for you. I'm standing here with you. Talking to you. Trying to understand you. So give me a chance to do that, and I promise that I'll give it my best."
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"... I didn't stop you because of him." That's a good place to start, right? That seems to be the crux of the matter for him. "He could have been anyone. I stopped you because I don't want you to hurt others. I may not know you well, but I at least know you're better than that. Your self control is important to you. You don't lash out without a reason."
It crosses her mind that this is hard. She has to be so careful about what she says. Not because it's not the truth, but because she gets the notion that if she tries to rely on just feelings, she won't get through to him. She has to break it down further for him--to simple facts that he can't deny.
"So, can you please talk to me? I'm doing this for you. I'm standing here with you. Talking to you. Trying to understand you. So give me a chance to do that, and I promise that I'll give it my best."